What Can Parents, Families and Friends Do?
While many students seek out counseling services on their own, parents, family members and friends are often the first people to recognize that a student is not functioning at their best.
Students who may be struggling often turn to parents and family for help in figuring out what to do. You may find it helpful to have basic information about the supportive resources available for students at Adelphi and direct them to seek help. The SCC is available to provide professional counseling services to all registered students and will consult with you when you have concerns about how best to help your student.
Tips for talking with your student:
- Listen and try not to be nonjudgemental and uncritical
- Spend time with your student…just being present even when there is silence is helpful
- Tell them directly that you care and are willing to listen
- Talk directly about your concern
- Let them know that you understand the problem is important to them
- Help them develop problem-solving skills
- Encourage and support them in trying out their own solutions before you insist they try yours, unless you are concerned for their safety
- Respect their privacy, but avoid promising total secrecy in case you need to keep your student safe
Be clear that while you want to be helpful, there are limits to your support and expertise
- Encourage them to seek help at the Student Counseling Center
- Emphasize that talking to a profession is confidential
- Explain that seeking help is a sign of health, strength, and maturity
- Point out that professional listeners are objective
- Share your own positive experiences with getting help, if applicable
- Follow up and find out how your student is doing and if things are changing